It's difficult to make long-term plans; he might just be on another continent on your wedding day.
The stress involved in uncertainty can add additional strain to a relationship, but you can combat it by embracing the positive aspects of your partner and the relationship, and using outside sources of support to make it through your time apart.
This is based solely on the experiences of my veteran friends, as well as my own with a past paramour. The military teaches service members to trust their unit, and few others. If he comes to you with a problem, chances are he’ll talk about it until he no longer wants to and then go into lockdown. That is not a good thing or a bad thing, that is just a matter of fact and something you need to understand. Military men are used to their band of brothers, and are bred to be loyal and protective. Some branches of the military (I’m looking at you, Marines) have a feeling of superiority over others.
This list is not simply a composition of pros or cons, but rather an overview of what dating a service member active duty or veteran — is like. They are meant to be extremely close with this group of people and everyone else is simply on a need-to-know basis. It is not a competition between his military friends and you; they are people who shared a very intimate part of his life, and you should want to be close with them, too. He will love you fiercely and be the most faithful companion, if you can promise the same. Granted, that is earned due to the nature of their work and how much they put on the line.
I had my first date with him, and we weresupposedd to have a second date today. If there are any army wives or girlfriends this could help a lott.
I had my first date with him, and we weresupposedd to have a second date today.
What other things should I expect and be prepared for any advice it will be helpful. If you want to date a soldier, you need to grasp that concept. I might have been dating her, but I was married to the army. There were times where I missed appointments, missed birthdays, and missed dates. You don't get that kind of loyalty in civilians.
As the significant other, you will not get more details than necessary on anything unless you poke and prod. Related: The unconventional relationship is the norm in the military. However, in the civilian world, or in a relationship, it may be a little hard to deal with. Especially if he is coming from a higher rank, it may be increasingly difficult for him to “fall in line” with civilian life. Not every soldier comes home with post-traumatic stress.
It is a lot of work to break down those barriers and gain enough trust for him open up and be vulnerable. You need to understand this and realize how difficult it is. However, for those who do, there is nothing wrong with that.
You’ve read my posts about for an army girlfriend, navy girlfriend, or military girlfriend.
There are certain things that strong military relationships have.