Now, one might wonder whether you should even bother dating a man going through a divorce (or a woman, for that matter).
Isn’t it going to be a risky and super-messy affair?
You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.
Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.
Eventually our platonic relationship turned into more.
We both carried strong feelings for one another, and discussed our options.
We were going to go to a mutual friend's party, he would drive us both since I didn't know the area. It was totally innocent, but she was determined that we were having an affair. Now she is fighting for full custody of their daughter, asking for spousal support, and refuses to let me be anywhere near their daughter.
We have since started seeing each other, but I feel like perhaps we ought not to.
I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.
It's been a difficult journey, I left him once before and came back to "fix our relationship." I hate the idea of divorce, but knew that our relationship was empty. They have a beautiful little 2 year old, so he felt it was best to work things out for her.
He also was going through a difficult time with his wife of 2 years.
In most cases, a divorce is a decision that comes after a lot of pain and heartache, and is usually one that is made after a good deal of thought.
A couple going through a divorce have likely exhausted all possibilities of making things work, and are breaking up a relationship that they once thought would last forever.